You may try hard to hide it but you have a gentle heart. You would not only be respected and feared. You would be loved. Someone who can rule, and should rule — centuries come and go without a person like that coming into the world. There are times when I look at you and I still can’t believe that you are real.
— Jorah Mormont to Daenerys Targaryen in Game of Thrones
Okay, in our real lives, the above might be a little over the top. But the essence of Daenerys’ character that is being talked about here is her leadership claim. How having a gentle heart would actually contribute into making her a better choice for her subjects. That brings me to our world of employers and employees. My message is for the employers.
I once prided myself in being an really strict employer. I used to tell people whenever I got the opportunity of how those who worked under me were afraid of me because they knew that with me, there would be no bending of rules. Everything had to be perfect.
But then I met my match in my new boss. Not only was he ten times stricter than me but completely unappreciative. Nothing was ever enough for him. All he did was try to break my morale and make me feel inept. But in the midst of all the dark clouds, there was one silver lining. He taught me exactly the kind of boss I should NEVER become.
That changed my life. Today, one thing I am sure of is that those who work for me are not afraid of me. Yes, they respect me which is why they do what I say. But there is a certain shift in their eyes and I like what I see. Now they work for me because they want to, not just because I wanted them to.
Trust me, it makes life so much easier. So much happier. After all, we could all do with more blessings than curses.