When you said
You didn’t like
What I did,
I dropped it.
When you said
You didn’t like
What I said,
I shut it.
When you said
You didn’t like
What I thought,
I stopped it.
And then one day,
I realized,
I didn’t like
Who I was becoming.
So I picked what I dropped.
So I opened my shut mouth.
So I started thinking again.
And I walked out.
For honey, as much as I love you,
I’ll adjust just as much,
As I don’t lose
Who I am.
For I can change
Five or even fifty things.
But if I’m told to change everything,
Then I think I need to change, from you!
— Dedicated to everyone who has been adjusting a tad bit too much for someone else and has forgotten what it is like to live for oneself
Enjoyed your post, Mia. Many of the things you say here should be heeded.
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” ~ Bernard M. Baruch
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I completely agree with that quote.
Thank you, Keith for adding on as well as appreciating my work. 😊
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Absolutely beautiful….I love it…it resonates deep
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Thank you so much for your kind words! I’m glad you could connect with it. A big hug from my side for being a strong girl! 🤗
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Mia I loved this. I hope it will blessed many women around the world to take action if they have to become someone they are not in order to live with someone else. Bless you my friend. Sending you love and hugs. Joni
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Thank you so much for your appreciation, Joni! 🙂
I also sincerely hope that your hope comes true. It should.
💕🤗
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I do as well my friend. It was a great piece. I think it will help people. Have a blessed weekend. Love ❤️ Joni
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Thanks and wish you the same.
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This is so very beautiful Mia. Resilience runs in the work and by the end of it, it’s a wonderful transformation. So so good.
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Thank you so much for your kind words, Shanyu! 🙂 I’m glad that you could appreciate the flow of emotions.
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It is my absolute pleasure. It was stunning. Just read it once again. Peace.
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Aww! That makes me so happy, Shanyu! 🙂
Have a great and safe week ahead!
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Likewise friend. Waiting to read what comes next.
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Will try not to disappoint!
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You never do.
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🙌
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Thank you
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You make me feel so humbled, Anomaly! 🤗 My pleasure, indeed!
In fact, thank you so much for your support.
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So pretty!
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Thank you so much for your appreciation, Ashmita! 🙂
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Welcome ❤️
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This is absolutely a beautiful poem….a reminder to reconnect from the disconnected….reminding – who we (in general) really are in the deep….what sorts of sacrifices we sometimes expect from others for our own sake….without seeing the beauty of the very being ❤️✨
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Thank you so much for your kind response, Navin! 🙂
You got the gist of the poem spot on. I hope we all work towards making life easier for especially the ones we claim to love.
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You’re welcome Mia….and I absolutely agree….I’ll think of your poem whenever I expect myself from others….the raw form is the purest one than the formed form
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🙂🙌
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So beautiful and true, Mia 💜 I adore your writing.
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Thanks a ton for your appreciation, Katy! It always encourages. 💕
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This is beautiful! One’s sense of self is really important! ❤
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Thank you so much for your appreciation, Fen! 🙂
Exactly, dear! Sense of self is something that everyone needs. Then only can we value others well. ❤
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Exactly, Mia! If someone likes a version of you that doesn’t exist, what point is there in pursuing the relationship? Obviously, he (or she) is in love with someone else, not you. Pretending to be an idealized version of yourself is exhausting, unfair and, ultimately, is impossible to sustain.
Sure, some change in all relationships is inevitable. This isn’t a bad thing, either, as the healthiest encounters are those which encourage both parties to improve. Still, the broad themes stay valid. If even these won’t do, though, what, exactly, are we doing here? You’re looking for someone else, not me.
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Thank you so much for your encouraging response, Keith! 🙂
As always, you got the theme spot on. The best relationships are the ones where people are allowed to be themselves, in all their glory and gore and yet loved unconditionally. ❤
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You have to be you, Mia. 🤠🔥
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Exactly my point! Thank you so much for your support! 🙂
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Absolutely!
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I love this
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Thank you so much for your appreciation, Jesse! 🙂
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Hey Mia, I’m Phoenix and I’m quite new to your blog, it’s awesome! You certainly have a way with words!
P.s. Are you an actual author?
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Thank you so much for your kind words, Phoenix! 🙂
I’m still in the struggling phase. I have sent my manuscript to several places but never been accepted.
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Right…
Well, I published my ebooks on Amazon KDP, self publishing. It’s very good, easy and free, you can check it out. 😊
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Oh, good for you!
I’m aware of it. But it doesn’t get the kind of publicity that books from publishing houses get. That is why I haven’t gone that way.
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Thank you!
Oh, I understand. Well, best of luck to you, I’m sure a publisher will approach you soon, your writing is awesome! 😊
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Thanks a lot for your support, Phoenix! 🙂
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Rightly said.
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Thank you so much for your appreciation, Kritika! 🙂
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My pleasure 😊
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Excellent! Goes along with the quote, “I’ve compromised so much, I’ve forgotten who I am.”
As I was reading the end of this, the thought cane to me that if we’re expected to keep changing snd changing, they probably isn’t really want “us” in the 1st place, just someone to mold into someone to cater exclusively to them. Sounds like a narcissist’s slave. Good blog!
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Thank you so much for your kind words, Mary! I really appreciate it. 🙂
You are very right. We have to accept ourselves for who we are and know that it is absolutely fair to want someone else to also do the same.
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Love the way you put the point.
Thank you
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The pleasure is all mine! Thank you so much for your kind words! 🙂
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🙏🙏🙏
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This is beautiful, Mia.
Well penned. ❤
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Thank you so much for your appreciation, Freethinker! 🙂
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My pleasure. 🙂
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Wow, I really enjoyed this! Important message…
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Thank you so much for your appreciation, Efrona! 🙂
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😮💨🫰🏽🫰🏽🫰🏽
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Hahaha, thank you so much, dear! 😊
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